6‍‌‍‍‌‍‌‍‍‌ Requests That Show Your Partner Never Truly Loved You

Summary:

True love is shown through everyday acts, not just words; it values your feelings and well-being above all.
Controlling behaviors disguised as love include isolation, changing yourself, and not allowing your needs to be met.
Love should make you feel safe, heard, and valued, not guilty or small; true love accepts you as you are.

Love does not concern only what you hear the words of I love you. It is manifested in the minute routine everyday acts, especially that which your partner expects you to do. A caring spouse will go out of his/her way to ensure that you will feel safe, heard and valued. However, when a person has never loved one, his or her requests are full of misunderstandings most of the time and they leave one feeling small or guilty. To begin with, such demands might sound quite commonplace but over the course of time they start eroding your self-esteem and happiness. According to psychology, true love revitalizes your emotional well being as compared to fake love that revolves around control, personal comfort or fear of loneliness. The difference can be identified through six easy requests as listed below.

“You are too sensitive”

When the person you love is asking you to stop responding or to get hurt, it is simply because he or she does not care about how you feel. Love hears. It never makes you guilty that you feel.

No, no talk to them any more.

When your partner insists on you cutting off friends or relatives and does not tell you of the actual reason, then this is a control issue as opposed to a love issue. Love-giving partner is the one who makes you realize that you need people who can support you and you should not feel lonely.

“Change yourself for me”

Asking you to alter something about your character, the things that you like or even your opinion simply because you are the one that they love is certainly not love. The type of love that accepts you as you are and then attempts to make you into what you are not before you are trying to change you is the true love.

“Do not ask for so much”

When one of the partners tells you that you must not raise your needs, what that partner is saying is that he or she does not want to make the effort. There is no issue of love making way to your needs, feelings and worries.

“If you really love me, prove it”

The dominance and control is demonstrated by the tendency to constantly demand something, be it letting go, tests or reassurance in addition to being ridden with insecurity. Love is the one that can make you feel relaxed and safe instead of feeling as though you are with an entire microscope.

Even when you are unhappy, just remain

When the person is asking you to come and stay with him/her even when you are hurt, the person is primarily thinking of the fact that he/she will not be lonely and not that you will be happy. It is love that desires you to be happy and not to be absorbed in the agony.